You're not the only one who prefers forums to mailing lists. I agree with
you on "say stuff and read stuff." I also don't care at all for the
archive software that is used, for example, for this mailing list in
comparison to forum software that I have used. It's one more thing that
makes mailing lists look to me like an anachronism.
It's probably true that we're in a minority, but that may be only because
many people that would have joined a forum won't join mailing lists. I
almost didn't join this one, and every week I reconsider that decision,
especially because I'm not that active as a user of other's software
rather than my own.